What Are Your Verbs Doing?

    Do you remember back in primary school when the teacher said verbs were ‘doing’ words? Doing words? What’s a doing word? A verb is a doing word. Let’s take a closer look at these overactive words.

    A verb is a part of speech (one word or a group of words) that shows some sort of action being done with or to the subject of a sentence. Essentially there are three main types of verbs, and we will look at those below.

    The main types of verbs are-

    • Transitive
    • Intransitive
    • Auxiliary

    Transitive verbs show that the action passes from the main subject to another subject.

    Example: The dog chased the tennis ball.

    Intransitive verbs show that the action stops, or is retained, by the subject. Sometimes a complement word is needed for completeness.

    Example: Julie wept.

    Auxiliary verbs are additional words that are added to an existing verb to form a verb group.

    Example: Ben will clean his room.

    There are many other variations and uses of verbs, including: compound verbs, copulative verbs, process verbs, finite and non-finite verbs, split infinitives, active and passive verbs, mood verbs, parts of a verb, verb tenses, and agreement of subject and verb. We’ll discuss these in another article.


    Kristy Taylor is a syndicated freelance journalist with articles and short stories strewn across all forms of media. She has written and published numerous books, and is the executive editor of KT Publishing, which encompasses several web sites. For free listings of short story competitions visit http://www.shortstorycompetitions.com

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    9 Tips to Getting Published

    You’ve written your story and now you want to send it off to a publisher. But is your story ready to be sent off? To increase your chances of getting published the following tips should help get your story ready for publication:

    1. A good title can help catch the editor/publisher’s eye;
    2. Always include a beginning, middle and an ending in your stories;
    3. Edit for clarity as well as grammar, spelling, etc…;
    4. Always use correct (or publisher required) manuscript presentation;
    5. Include a front and back coversheet;
    6. Include a SSAE;
    7. Stick to the required word count and format;
    8. The less work the editor/publisher has to do, the more likely your piece will be accepted (but don’t make your manuscript look like a book, that’s the editor/publisher’s job);
    9. Always be professional.

    If you can submit an error-free, professional-looking manuscript, you will have already beaten all the other writers who think they’ll get their story noticed if it’s printed on pink paper, bordered with little stars, or hand-written in old gothic. None of these strategies will give you an edge; they will only make you look too eccentric to be worth an editor’s trouble.

    Being neat, professional and competitive may help to put you ahead of the rest and get your story published.


    Kristy Taylor is a syndicated freelance journalist with articles and short stories strewn across all forms of media. She has written and published numerous books, and is the executive editor of KT Publishing, which encompasses several web sites. For free listings of short story competitions visit http://www.shortstorycompetitions.com

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    Sentenced for Life: Structure it Right

    As a new writer, you may be faced with a unique struggle – you know what you want to say, but not how to say it. The ideas are there – but not the structure. As you become more comfortable with your craft, you will also enhance your knowledge of the correct use of grammar in your work. It is often difficult to learn how to use correct sentence structure in your fiction or non-fiction writing. There are four main issues to address that will improve the quality of your writing: non-agreement of verbs and their correlating subjects; sentence fragments and incomplete thoughts; run-on sentences and comma splice errors; and improper order of sentence elements.

    Subject/Verb Disagreement

    When you are proofreading to ascertain noun/verb disagreement issues, remove all unnecessary elements from the sentence, leaving just the subject and predicate. Read aloud just those words – does it sound correct to your ears? Have you used the correct tense of verb with your noun or pronoun?

    Build-up of troops in the Middle East progress at a steady pace.

    In the sentence above, carefully pick out your subject: is it troops, or build-up? The correct answer is build-up. To check the validity of your sentence, remove “troops in the Middle East” and “at a steady pace”. Your sentence now reads “Build-up progress”. That doesn’t sound pleasing to the ear, does it? This sentence should correctly read as follows: “Build-up of troops in the Middle East is progressing at a steady pace. Your grammar is now much better.

    He walks down the sidewalk and twirled his yo-yo.

    In this example, we have one disagreement. Can you point it out? Two separate verbs refer back to the subject. “He walks” and “He twirled” both sound correct, don’t they? And they are – just not in the same sentence. It is grammatically incorrect to use verbs of a different tense when referring to the same subject. This sentence structure can be corrected in two ways. First, you can write “He walks down the sidewalk and twirls his yo-yo”. The second option is “He walked down the sidewalk and twirled his yo-yo”.

    Sentence Fragments and Incomplete Thoughts

    Sentence fragments can be hard to find in your writing because your eyes may view what you believe to be a complete phrase, but what is actually an incomplete thought. When reading for fragments, consider the grammar of each sentence structure individually. Is there a subject and a verb? This may seem tedious at the start, but as your mind becomes accustomed to automatically picking out necessary sentence elements, your editing will progress at a faster pace.

    Too much work to be done before the exam.

    Examining the sentence structure above, can you find a subject? What if you revised the sentence structure to read “There is too much work to be done before the exam”? What is the subject now? When the words “there is” were added to the sentence, it was transformed from a fragment to a complete thought.

    Run-Ons and Splices

    While fragmentary sentences are missing part of the equation, run-on sentences and comma-splice errors have too many additions to the equation. To weed out this error, read your sentence out loud. If you have to stop for a breath, or to figure out what you’ve just said, your sentence structure needs revision. Possible corrections for run-on sentences include splitting into two sentences, adding commas or semi-colons, or including a coordinating conjunction.

    My favourite restaurant is the Chop House because they have friendly waitresses the food is good and my friends like to go there often.

    When you read the sentence above, add punctuation wherever you would naturally pause or take a breath. What is your resulting structure? One possibility is “My favourite restaurant is the Chop House; they have friendly waitresses, the food is good, and my friends like to go there often.

    The sidewalk is wet, the children are covered in mud.

    A comma-splice error is the combining of two independent clauses with just a comma. To fix this error in grammar, the most common solutions include separating into two independent sentences or replacing the common with a semi-colon. For the example above, your solutions would then be “The sidewalk is wet. The children are covered in mud” or “The sidewalk is wet; the children are covered in mud”.

    Sentence Element Order

    As a writer, you can employ a variety of sentence structures when developing your writing. At the same time, Grammar Nazis advise that certain rules of the road must always be followed. You may remember from early writing classes that English teachers will always point out when you’ve used a preposition at the end of your sentence. Although this may sometimes seem to be unavoidable, precaution should be taken to avoid this structure as often as possible. Consider the examples below:

    Where is he at?

    Who are you attending the concert with?

    Who did you send a Valentine to?

    How can we best revise these examples to become more grammatically correct? In the first example, the solution is easy to even the novice writer: remove the preposition, and the intent of the question remains the same. The second and third examples are trickier. Both formats have become acceptable in colloquial conversation but are frowned upon in more formal writing. Consider the context of your writing before changing. Are you writing dialogue between two characters? If so, the structure used in examples two and three may be acceptable. But if you are writing a formal document, revision is necessary.

    To revise, there are two main considerations. First, where should the preposition be located for clarity of thought? Second, are noun/pronoun usages correct? After pondering those considerations, what sentence structures will you consider? The second sentence should be revised to read “With whom are you attending the concert?” The third sentence should appropriately read “To whom did you send a Valentine?” In both sentences, you must change the word who to whom to preserve correct grammar and intent.

    Your main goal as a writer should be to clearly convey your thoughts to your audience. Though at times, you must follow a specific format in order to use correct grammar while maintaining understandable sentence structures. At others, options are available for you to explore in order to maximize the effectiveness of your writing. In any case, practice will make your editing impeccable, allowing you to say whatyou want exactly how you want.


    Kristy Taylor is a syndicated freelance journalist with articles and short stories strewn across all forms of media. She has written and published numerous books, and is the executive editor of KT Publishing, which encompasses several web sites. For free listings of short story competitions visit http://www.shortstorycompetitions.com

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    Let Your Characters Speak for Themselves

    “As a writer, one of the first lessons you learn is to show not tell your story. One of the most effective ways to do this is by using the dialogue of the characters to move the story along.” The editor said to a young writer he’s just met at a conference. “The key to any good fiction story is how compelling the characters are and by the use of dialogue to make the characters come alive. Only by making the reader care about the occupants of your story can you accomplish good story telling.”

    “So you mean I’ve got to worry about what the character’s say?” the new writer asked.

    “Absolutely,” the editor answered. “Not only do you have to worry about what they say, you also have to worry about how they say it.”

    “What does that mean? How they say it?”

    “Well,” the editor continued, “you want to make it sound real, but at the same time, it has to be readable.”

    “So, how do you do that?” The young writer asked, his face a mask of confusion.

    “One simple way,” the editor answered, “is to picture the characters in you mind and write their dialogue with emotion.”

    “You mean, with tag lines such as ‘she cried’ or ‘he laughed’?”

    “They can be used, for sure. But you have to be careful you don’t overuse tag lines. They can be effective, but a better way would be with word choice.”

    “Can you give me an example?”

    “Let’s say you have a character that is having an argument with her husband. Which is more effective?

    ‘You don’t love me.’ or ‘Okay, I get it, you don’t love me and you never have.’

    “For me, as an editor, the second choice would get my vote. Not only are you showing the character as believing the husband doesn’t love her, but you are also showing how insecure the character is. No tag line could do that.”

    “All right, I see what you mean. But how do I know if I’m making my dialogue sound good?”

    “The easiest way is to either have someone else read it aloud or you read it aloud into a tape recorder and play it back to yourself. If while reading aloud, you stumble over a line, then you will know immediately that you need to go back and look at that line again. Stumbling is a sure sign that the dialogue needs work.”

    “I see what you’re saying. My characters shouldn’t be saying anything that real people wouldn’t, right?” The young writer asked.

    “Which brings us to the next point. Watch out for the use of dialect.”

    “What’s wrong with dialect? Mark Twain used it all the time.”

    “You’re not Mark Twain, are you?” The editor said gently to the young writer. “Most modern readers are turned off by heavy use of dialect. A little goes a long way. The best option is to introduce you character using dialect in a few lines and slowly transition into normal English. That’s not to say you can’t throw in a ‘ya’all’ here and there if it fits to remind the reader of who the character is.”

    “But that’s the way my character talks and I understand him completely.”

    “I know you understand. Yet, many of your readers might not. They may be unfamiliar with that particular dialect. While you may understand Cajun, this may be your reader’s first experience with it. The last thing you want to do is slow your reader down by making him have to translate the dialogue. Many won’t take the time and will move on to the next story.”

    “So it’s always about the reader?”

    “Always.” The editor answered.

    “Any other tips you want to pass along about using effective dialogue in fiction?”

    “Sure, here’s a few more pointers.” the editor continued. “When writing your story, think of how it would translate into a movie. Movies are almost always dialogue driven. There may be all sorts of whiz bang action going on in the background, but it takes the characters’ dialogue to make sense of it all.”

    “Okay, I’ll start paying attention to movies and see how they do it. Anything else?”

    “Don’t cheat and let the narration tell the story. Paragraph after paragraph of details and descriptions will bore your reader. Remember that you want as much white space on the page as possible. Using dialogue breaks up the action and allows your reader a little breathing room.”

    “But I want my reader sitting on the edge of their seat. How can I do that without describing what’s going on?”

    “By having your characters react to the action. It’s that simple. Unless your characters convey with their words what the action means, you can write pages of narration and no one will care. Once again, it’s the characters your reader cares about and unless your reader feels emotionally attached, beautiful prose means nothing.”

    “So you’re saying narration has its place, such as world building, but what the character says and does is the most important thing?”

    “I think you’ve got it.” the editor said. “Now go back and look at your story. Try to see where you can cut the flowery prose and instead, have the details conveyed by the dialogue of your characters.”

    “Hey, thanks for all the advice. I think I can do this.”

    “I know you can. And no need for thanks, just get to work and let your characters speak for themselves!”


    Kristy Taylor is a syndicated freelance journalist with articles and short stories strewn across all forms of media. She has written and published numerous books, and is the executive editor of KT Publishing, which encompasses several web sites. For free listings of short story competitions visit http://www.shortstorycompetitions.com

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    The Finer Points of Punctuation

    Perhaps the best way to illustrate the importance and effect of proper punctuation is to imagine reading a piece of writing without it. Supposing you were to read this entire article – all 900 words of it – with absolutely no punctuation. Not just the obvious periods and commas, but no colons, dashes, exclamation marks or question marks.

    Punctuation hasn’t always been a part of writing. It evolved over time, as the printing process itself evolved. Prior to the development of printing, punctuation was almost non-existent and when William Caxton first printed books in English, he used three basic punctuation devices, mainly to indicate pauses and sentence endings.

    Throughout the 17th century, more punctuation was devised, the most recent being the quotation marks. Eventually we had punctuation as we know it today, consisting of at least a dozen different punctuation devices (depending on your definition) – although some people would have difficulty naming all of them.

    A book, article or essay can be well researched and written, but without the correct use of grammar and punctuation, a piece of writing can fail. The well-known book title “Eats, Shoots and Leaves” makes the point well – in this case, a single comma makes all the difference to the meaning.

    Most of us who write fiction – or anything else – understand the basics of when to use punctuation, such as the comma, period and question mark. Often, even experienced writers can have trouble determining when to use the dash, the apostrophe, the semi-colon and the exclamation mark.

    The semi-colon and the colon can both be tricky to use correctly. A semi-colon indicates a natural pause in a sentence that is greater than a comma, but not as firm as the period. An example might be this sentence; it’s also an example of the use of the apostrophe.

    A scenario where you would use the colon is to introduce a list or to introduce a character’s speech. A good writer needs to have the following skills: patience, dedication, the ability to research accurately and perhaps a thick skin.

    The dash can be used effectively to emphasize a point, or to indicate a sudden change in the focus of a sentence such as the following one. I have to admit I have not written anything worthwhile for many years, but enough about me – how is your new book coming along?

    Two dashes are used almost like parenthesis in that they enclose something that is separate from the rest of the sentence. I have lived for many years in London – although I prefer Paris – and know the city just about as well as anybody can.

    The dash can also serve as a neat device for logically tying up a series of connected points. The book I just read had an interesting plot, strong characters, good descriptive writing and an unexpected twist at the end – I really enjoyed it. The dash summarizes the points made, without having to start another sentence. However, too many dashes can make a piece of writing seem less formal.

    The exclamation mark is an example of punctuation that is sometimes overused! It isn’t necessary to use exclamation marks all the time! Be sparing with them! Although a plethora of exclamation marks can admittedly make a dull passage in fiction seem that little bit more interesting.

    An exclamation mark should be used to indicate a strong emotion, such as surprise (I’m going to be a father!) and it’s often used in fiction dialogue to indicate somebody raising their voice or arguing. And if your character is insulting another person, the exclamation mark also gets the point across well.

    The apostrophe is a small thing, but it can cause big problems. The overworked apostrophe can have several uses – one of which is to take the place of a letter that is missing. If I had written “to take the place of a letter that’s missing” the meaning would have been the same.

    Another common use of the apostrophe is when it is used to designate possession. Most of the time, an apostrophe plus the letter s will suffice. An example would be – I met my friends last night at Michael’s party – in other words, the party belongs to Michael.

    The tricky part happens when the possessive noun ends in the letter s. Sherlock Holmes’ house was at 221b Baker Street, London. In this case you put the apostrophe after the letter s, rather than before.

    The question mark. Surely the question mark is one of the easiest pieces of punctuation to use correctly? Apart from obviously putting it at the end of a question, it can also be used to turn a statement into a question, as in the previous sentence.

    Punctuation is certainly not the most exciting or glamorous aspect of writing fiction. But correct punctuation can make or break a novel, or any other type of writing, as most of us know only too well. When we come across poor punctuation or grammar, just remember that all-important comma in “Eats, Shoots and Leaves”!

    And by the way, if you are still puzzling over them, here are ten punctuation marks that most of us are familiar with: the comma, apostrophe, quotation marks, exclamation mark, question mark, parenthesis, dash, colon, semi-colon and period.


    Kristy Taylor is a syndicated freelance journalist with articles and short stories strewn across all forms of media. She has written and published numerous books, and is the executive editor of KT Publishing, which encompasses several web sites. For free listings of short story competitions visit http://www.shortstorycompetitions.com

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    Title Your Short Story Right

    No matter how fantastic the short story you have written may be, without a catchy title the chances are good that an editor will not read it. The title is the most important part of the story as this is what first captures the reader’s attention.

    A good title should grab the reader and make them wonder what the story is about. A bad title will probably cause the reader to skip the story altogether. This holds true when submitting your stories for publication. Editors are busy people and will pass on the story, often without reading the first sentence, if your title doesn’t capture their interest.

    The title of your story will tell the editor a lot about your creativity. If your title is strong, an editor will be more likely to look at your story with a positive attitude.

    So how do you come up with a good title? Below is a small list of tips to help you come up with an attention grabbing title.

    1. Keep it short, no more than four or five words. Even two or three word titles are generally more than enough. If you can come up with a single word that conveys something about your story, even better.

    2. Avoid boring titles. Don’t name your story something like ‘The Monster’ or ‘The Sea’ as these are dull and boring, and too generalized. Instead, try for something that evokes emotion. “Under the Bed” would be a good title for a scary story and “High Tides” works better for a story based on the ocean.

    3. Make sure your title fits your genre. Don’t name a whodunit with a title that could be confused with a romance story.

    4. Make your title easy to remember. This is another reason to keep the title short. Use your creativity to come up with something catchy that relates to the theme, the action, or the characters of the story. A memorable title allows your readers to recommend your story to others.

    5. Research the title you come up with. Although titles are not copyrighted, you don’t want your story confused with another story of the same name. They can be similar without being exact.

    So how do you spark your creativity to come up with the perfect title for your story? The following are a handful of ways to awaken your muse.

    1. A short line of dialogue or a memorable sentence from your story can sometimes be the right choice.
    2. A common phrase or expression can often be found that sums up the theme of your story. Or use a play on words, where only one element of the phrase is changed.
    3. Borrow a line from an established work. Look at Shakespeare, the Bible or other well known book, song or movie.
    4. Use one your main characters’ names. Think along the lines of ‘Tom Sawyer’ or Stephen King’s ‘Christine’.
    5. Likewise, your title can be your setting. Think of Brokeback Mountain, Lost in Space, etc…
    6. A good title can convey the main idea of your story. ‘Misery’ or ‘Legends of the Fall’ are good examples.
    7. Use word association to link together elements of the story.
    8. Allow the action to determine the name. By adding an ‘ing’ to the first word, you can come up with a catchy title. Some examples of this could be Chasing Rainbows or Dreaming Life Away.

    Often, you can spend hours coming up with a title only to have the editor change it after accepting the story for publication. Sometimes the new title will make little sense to you. While you may think your title is perfect, the editor knows the publication’s readers well and may think the alternative is a better choice. And while this may irk your ego, knowing the story will be published is its own reward.

    However you come up with the title to your short story, remember it is the first impression the editor will have about your writing abilities. Like the logline to a screenplay or the first paragraph of a novel, the title should represent the story they are about to read. At the end of the day, you want the editor to remember your story and place it in the ‘accepted for publication’ stack on their desk.


    Kristy Taylor is a syndicated freelance journalist with articles and short stories strewn across all forms of media. She has written and published numerous books, and is the executive editor of KT Publishing, which encompasses several web sites. For free listings of short story competitions visit http://www.shortstorycompetitions.com

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    Get the Write Edge

    Take a look around your workplace. Do the leaders in your organisation write effectively and powerfully? Do good writers tend to get promoted? Do people tend to listen to good writers? Are good writers able to persuade or convince effectively? Absolutely, yes, yes, and yes again!

    More and more of our work today is undertaken through writing rather than in person or on the phone. Indeed, I really wish that wasn’t true. Have you ever considered how much quicker certain issues could be resolved by picking up the phone or speaking to someone face-to-face? We all spend way too much time going through the ding-dong of emails going back and forth, when a simple phone call would have been much more effective. Anyway, I digress.

    As we are writing so much more these days, we depend on our writing skills to influence, persuade, encourage, collaborate, and to lead. However, how often do you notice people talking about the importance of good writing in your day-to-day work? They don’t, right? Most people don’t really notice the quality of the writing they read – they simply react positively, negatively, or not at all. If you have ever wondered if there’s a better way to write your messages so they get better results, there is!

    Here are three of the new rules for written communication:

    1. If you can say it, you can write it
    We connect with the world today largely through e-mail, web sites, blogs, texting, and social media. With all these channels we have only bare facts, without tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, or pauses. As we regularly use these means instead of talking, it makes sense to use writing that’s as close as possible to spoken language. When you do this, you gain yourself a great advantage – you put your personality and individuality into your message. This will help you to stand out more and make a greater connection with your reader.

    2. Write for today, not yesterday
    Yesterday: Please be advised that a meeting of the Annual Convention Committee will be held on 24 February (Thursday) at 9.30 am. Approximately 2 hours will be required for the meeting and you are required to attend to report on progress made since the last meeting. Kindly advise me of your availability at your soonest.

    Today: I’d like to hold another meeting of the Annual Convention Committee on Tuesday 24 February from 9.30 to 11.30 am. I hope you can attend to report on the great ideas you brought up at the last meeting. Please confirm if you can join us.

    Yesterday’s writing is passive and wordy, and it sounds really dull. It puts a distance between you and the reader. The way it is written also slows down understanding. Today’s writing sounds more conversational. It’s crisp, clear, transparent, and the personal context makes it more positive and interesting.

    3. Make your aim to build relationships
    In writing, as readers can’t see or hear you, people will judge you based on what you write and how you write it. In today’s fast-paced, communication-crazy world, it’s essential to come across as a human being. If you insist on using old fashioned or redundant jargon (Please be reminded, Kindly be advised, Please find attached herewith, above-mentioned, reference and perusal, etc) you will obscure the real meaning and will not be adding any personality of your own. Make your writing positive, stimulating and interesting, add some feeling and a personal touch. This will help people get to know the real person behind the message.

    Poor writing damages reputations

    Poorly written messages reflect badly on you and your organisation. Poor writing will not clarify an organisation’s products, services, values, policies and beliefs; it may even portray them negatively. As a result, business efficiency is lost, as are opportunities to connect and to build relationships with clients, colleagues and collaborators.

    Good writing makes a difference

    Good writing is receiving increasing recognition as an essential business skill, and it will give you a huge advantage in today’s business world. Good writing can help you work more efficiently, build credibility, improve relationships, influence other people, win more clients and achieve your goals.

    So take another look around your workplace. Look objectively at the messages you receive, and at the messages you send. Are they full of yesterday’s jargon or today’s conversational expressions? Will they help to enhance your professional reputation or ruin it? Will they help to build relationships or break them?

    Give yourself an edge in this very competitive world by getting to grips with effective writing now, before it’s too late!

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    Shirley Taylor is a popular trainer and author of many successful books on communication and business writing skills. Shirley lives in Singapore and conducts popular workshops on business writing, communication skills and e-mail writing. Visit http://www.shirleytaylortraining.com and receive five complimentary special reports in the Seven Steps to Success series. Check out Shirley’s books at http://www.stsuccessskills.com.
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    Practice, Practice, Practice
     

    It may sound silly but the key to self-confidence and building more self-esteem is through practice. Practice what it is you want to feel more confident about and eventually, the confidence will show itself. That makes sense if we’re talking about a skill like playing the piano. With enough practice, you naturally begin to get good at it and then you feel more confident. But what about tougher things like public speaking or meeting new people? How do you practice something that you’re terrified to do in the first place?

    If you have extreme self-esteem issues then you might want to seek professional help, but if you’ve determined that isn’t necessary, I would suggest that you start out by finding something that you genuinely love to do. Other than maybe reading books or doing crossword puzzles over coffee, most hobbies are a good place to start. Do you love to paint? Do you love to play a musical instrument? Do you love athletics? Find something that you love to do or that you think you would love to do. It’s not important what it is other than that it would bring you into contact with people on a tiny level. Unless you’re living in a cave somewhere, somebody is going to see your art work, hear your music, or see you running around practicing your sport. You don’t have to pick a big team oriented thing, just something that fascinates you and will be noticeable. Then do it. Learn to draw, take music lessons, start playing basketball in your own driveway, whatever, just start doing something that you can really enjoy.

    Keep doing it until you get really good at it. It doesn’t have to necessarily be your career, but that would be fun for you if it was. Practice often and with complete joy. Lose yourself in it. That’s part of overcoming self-confidence issues is forgetting to think about you. Swim laps at the pool until you forget to care how you look. Get lost in something other than analyzing yourself. Fall in love with some hobby that takes your mind away from what others might think of you. Just keep practicing something you love until you get really good at it. It’s your hobby and your love, so don’t make any judgments over whether or not it’s stupid to like doing whatever it is that you like doing. Just get on with it.

    When you’re in the moment — writing music or designing websites or whatever it is you’ve chosen, take a moment to reflect on how far you’ve come. At some point, you’re going to realize that you’re not too bad. At another point, you’ll even think, “Hey, I’m pretty good at this.” Someday, you’ll look up and notice that you’re an expert or at the very least awesome at what you’ve chosen to do. Take that growing self-confidence that’s connected to your hobby and begin channeling it into other areas. Depending on how much of a self-esteem problem you started out with it could be a matter of months or years before you are able to really see yourself in a new light. It’s one thing to say that everyone has their unique and special talent. It’s quite another to find and embrace your own.

    Your talent will not be something you hate doing. Sure, I’m really very good at scrubbing the bathroom. You can conduct a white glove inspection when I’m done, but that’s not my special talent. That’s not my special gift to the world. And it sure as heck never built an ounce of self-confidence for me. No, you have to really truly deeply love what it is you’re doing or the talent won’t show itself. You have to forget to think and lose all track of time while zoning out in the flow of creating, building, stretching, and growing with the hobby. Get to the point that when you look up and notice what you’ve done, that you’re impressed with yourself. Practice until you get to that point where you forget to judge yourself. You could very well end up making it into your career if there’s a market for it. If there isn’t, no harm done. You have got to build a can-do attitude around your ability to do something well.

    Once you’ve learned something that well, you can begin stretching beyond your comfort zone and trying other things like public speaking. Okay so that might not happen right away, but once you’ve really mastered something, then you can always remind yourself that you are capable of success and you are capable of learning something new. Once you know that you can practice and learn new things, then the fear of new things isn’t nearly so immobilizing. You can step beyond your fears knowing that with enough practice you can master almost anything you set your mind to. At that point, you won’t actually have a self-esteem problem anymore.

    The point is that by playing around with something you love until you are very good at it, you will gain self-esteem and that is going to make it possible for you to hold your head high and to bravely step into other more frightening areas of life. Start out by practicing at something you love until you’re good at it, then move on to the other things that don’t sound like much fun at all. You’ll really know deep down that there’s nothing to be afraid of. It all comes down to whether or not you believe that you are capable of learning something new. That’s all. Self-confident people reassure themselves when walking into unknown territory by saying, “Well, I’ll just have to wing it until I learn how to do it right. I’m sure I’ll figure it out soon enough.” That comes from experiencing the positive effects of having practiced and learned something new. So go learn something new — start with something fun.

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    Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow’s Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, soulmates, and parenting. Her books and articles have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. After years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. To read more of her articles, sign up to receive her free weekly newsletter, and get free previews of her books go to http://www.TomorrowsEdge.net.


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    Storytelling – the inherent power of success

    Would you believe me if I told you that you already have the power to succeed? It’s latent and just waiting to be tapped into. It’s relatively easy to learn and it reaps rewards that help you throughout your lifetime. It is also one of the skills that never becomes outdated or even useless but one that only becomes better the more you practice. What is this power? Storytelling.
     
    Storytelling has an effect of everyday life that is amazing. People have discovered it to get what they want in life and here are just four examples of actual conversations (with a few modifications as to names, places and so on) that show that when a story was told, there were positive repercussions, namely:
     
    A sale was made
    A lecture was successfully delivered
    A job was secured
    Friendships were made
     
    Conversation #1 – a sale was made
    Sales person A said, “The crystal you are holding in your hand is good for bringing wealth.”
     
    Then, before Jane could ask anything, sales person A said, “the colour in this crystal is yellow. Make a wish, buy this and I guarantee that your wish will come true.”
     
    Jane nodded politely, said, “Just looking …” and walked away.
    Sales person B said, “I see you are interested in the yellow crystal.”
     
    After Jane nodded and said, “You know, that has been my best selling item. Actually it has helped me personally too. Can I tell you the story?”
     
    Jane agreed and sales person B said, “Well, about a year ago, I lost my job. The bank was after me. I chanced upon these crystals. They come from the caves of this mountain where there is a story that the Goddess of wealth who is supposed to appear from time to time. I don’t know what the powers are in these crystals but I tell you, that day, when I went to the bank, the officer was so patient. He listened to me and instead of seizing my property, we re-negotiated. I was given time and since then I have started this business and am slowly succeeding.”
     
    Jane nodded and said, “Tell me more about this crystal…” and in no time at all, Jane bought the crystal.
     
    Conversation #2 – a brilliant lecture was delivered 
    Jack, an average lecturer at the university, began speaking to his class about the rather obscure topic of ‘History and the art of story telling with an emphasis on examples of satire’

    He began in a tedious, monotone: “There are many cultures in this world …” blah, blah, blah. He never bothered look at his audience to see it anyone was paying attention to what he was saying
     
    When he did look up he saw some of his students beginning to yawn and some others preparing to leave. Even though he felt dejected, Jack decided to plod along and finish his lecture. When the class ended, there were almost no students and Jack’s energy was completely drained.

    At 11 o’clock in the morning, Jack was to deliver the same lecture but to a different group of students. But this time, he decided to try something a little different…

    He started by looking at his audience for a moment, and then said, “This topic reminds me of a story I once knew…” and he launched into his story.

    The response was phenomenal and immediate. All his students stayed until the end of the class (a first); the discussion had been lively, entertaining and many thought-provoking issues were raised.
     
    Conversation # 3 – a job was secured
    There was a job available at a law firm and there were many candidates.
     
    Although lawyer A was qualified, she did not say very much except answer the normal questions about her qualifications and so on. No impression was made whatsoever on her potential employers.

    The potential employers then told her, regretfully that she was over qualified the company could not afford to pay her high salary.
     
    She left the room dejected.
     
    The next candidate, Lawyer B was as qualified as Lawyer A. However, she had a different approach all together. When she was given the same reply, by the potential employers, as Lawyer B, she did this:
     
    Instead of walking out of the room, she asked for permission to stay a little longer. She said that since it was time for a coffee break, would it be permissible to ask for a cup of coffee. “I would like to tell you a story,” is what she said. Stunned, her potential employers agreed and coffee was brought. She began her story, “A long time ago, in a land far, far away, when a group of people were looking for shelter in a Kingdom, the King said nothing. What he did was to pour the milk into a cup until it overflowed … this is what you are telling me,” and pours the coffee until it overflows.
     
    “What I am saying to you now is what the head of the people seeking shelter said to the King,” and what she does is to take a spoonful of sugar and mixes it into the coffee.
     
    Immediately her potential employers got the message that although she was over qualified, she was willing to work for them. Rather than be a burden, she would blend with the other people and add to the quality of their personnel. She was hired.
     
    Conversation # 4 – friendships were made
    Jane was invited by David for lunch. Really, more than her company, he wanted to complain about his work conditions.

    David said, “I am so tired of the rat race. My health is failing and no matter what I do, I’m never happy,” and on and on he went.
     
    Jane said, “You know, your problem – you whine all the time. You have everything in world and yet you are not content. You are just wasting everyone’s time. Now just eat your lunch.”
     
    In minutes, David walked out of Jane’s life … forever!
      
    Months later, Jane was invited out to lunch by Mike. Almost the same thing happened. Mike said, “I am so tired of the rat race. My health is failing and no matter what I do, I’m never happy,” and before he can rattle on an on, Jane gently stopped him.
     
    Jane’s reaction was different this time; she said, “You know, I have listened to you say this so many times. I know you are unhappy but have you even wondered about others. I mean let me tell you a story:
     
    “There was once a King who was the head of the government, he had lost all of his brothers. When it was time for him to face Death, he was asked the question: “Who enjoys happiness contentment and tranquility?”
     
    His answer was “A man who is not burdened by debts enjoys happiness contentment and tranquility. Even if he eats cheap foods after five or six days he remains happy contented and tranquil.”

    Death was so happy with the answer that not only was the King life spared, his brothers lives were all restored.”

    Mike said, “That’s why I always like coming to you with all my problems. You always have great stories to tell that give me solutions to my problems.”

    If you think that some of these tales are too far-fetched, I can assure you they are not. I repeat, they are excerpts from actual conversations and well … I’ve shown you the benefit derived from them. Need I add that storytelling is one of those skills that will always  hold you in good stead?


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